How do you define yourself? Are there many versions of you? When a person says they want to help you be the best you, what does that mean; is there a spectrum of you? No. There is a core of you and then there’s cheap facades you put up in the hope that not everyone else can see to the core.
There’s you with flaws, and there’s you where the flaws are a part of you. So what’s the difference? Well, if you like One Direction that is a flaw—but to get rid of that is to get rid of a part of you. However, if you put on an act to conform to other people’s expectations of you then that is you, plus flaws. You can get rid of that act and still keep 100% of you. Everything you do which is not you is a flaw.
“Take it off now, girl. I wanna see inside. Won’t you let me see beneath your beautiful, tonight?”
There is a best you. It’s not the you that can run a little faster, or with opinions that better conform for public opinions; it is the you at its freest. I don’t mind telling you Pixar’s Up made me cry more than Will Smith’s Seven Pounds and that both films did, and I don’t mind telling you that I like Ellie Goulding despite how that might change your opinion of me. That is me, free. There is nothing to be gained by denying those things.
There are more intimate things I’d be willing to admit, but this isn’t the right context for it. And that timid omission is another free part of me; it’s not a flaw until I hide it even when it’s appropriate; and I’ve had that flaw (probably still do). But the gist of it is that every single thing about you that other people might not expect, those are the bits you might consider hiding. And the act of hiding it dilutes you down. You are so much less than the very best of you when you do that.
“You are not your job. You are not the clothes you wear. You are the words that leave your mouth, so speak up, speak up, now”
Speak freer, and speak truer. Who is anyone else to tell you what you like and how you feel?